“Supposed To” Doesn’t Exist

“Supposed To” Doesn’t Exist

There’s no such thing as “supposed to.”

Recently, I wrote about @momandburied’s anxiety. One of the things that feeds it is the fear that she’s not doing enough and hasn’t accomplished things she’s “supposed to” have accomplished.

That’s bullshit. Not only is she holding herself to imaginary standards, but many of these expectations were created in a vacuum, before she had kids, before she had multiple sclerosis, before the damn pandemic!

There’s no such thing as “supposed to.”

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Parenting Sucks

Parenting Sucks

The other day, some guy messaged me, all worried that my constant jokes about hating parenting aren’t jokes. He’s concerned that I truly hate being a dad.

And guess what? He’s right. I do hate it. It sucks!

It’s hard. It’s exhausting. It’s expensive. It’s stressful. It’s frustrating. It’s boring. It’s loud. It’s demanding. And I’m terrible at it.

What sane person enjoys an activity like that?

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Preserving Their Childhood

Preserving Their Childhood

Last night, after we’d gotten the kids to bed, Mom and Buried and I sat down to talk.

It was the end of a long day and we had things to discuss. Adult things. We were in the middle of it when suddenly – it’s always suddenly – Detective Munch ran out of his bedroom to ask some innocuous question, for probably the 100th time that day.

And I lost my temper.

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ADHD and Me

ADHD and Me

Last year, I shared a post about my son’s ADHD diagnosis, and the relief it brought.

Finally, we had confirmation that our 9yo wasn’t intentionally ignoring us, willfully misbehaving, or somehow a bad kid. His brain is just wired differently, and with his diagnosis, we’ve been able to view things from a different perspective; hopefully, a more patient and understanding one.

Of course, understanding the big picture is one thing and managing my everyday reactions to his behavior is another.
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