Part 1 of the Only Child Condundrum dealt with the impact that having just one kid might have on that kid.
For Part 2, let’s forget about my son and his infinite potential for disappointing me for a minute. Instead, let’s talk about how having more than one kid might affect me and my wife.
Having a kid can be a burden, both financially and socially. Having a second not only doubles the financial strain, it greatly increases the other downsides to having kids. You think you’re tired with just one kid? You think you have no free time now? The prospect of entertaining a toddler while raising a baby does not excite us. Should it?
The primary thing that makes dealing with all the frustrating, exhausting, stressful horseshit that comes with raising a baby doable – besides all the love, of course! – is the inherent unpredictability. The totally unanticipatable (COINED!) novelty of living with a child goes a long way towards camouflaging the myriad negatives – the need to just react on the fly, without being able to consider what’s happening, actually serves to reduce the stress of the daily grind and lets you focus on big picture benefits. With baby number two, since you already know the drill, you are aware of all the checkpoints. I can only assume it becomes a countdown until you’re done with crying it out and done with diapers and done with breast feeding and done with math homework and done with underage drinking and done with college and DONE.
When you have a second child, or a third, does the ratio of joy to frustration stay the same? Or does the exhilaration and excitement dwindle as the novelty fades, while the exhaustion and frustration increase? Because it seems like maybe the latter holds true, at least in the early stages. That family-of-19-kids-with-names-that-all-start-with-J notwithstanding.
And then – horror of horrors – what if you don’t love the second one as much? I mean, I’m not a love machine – don’t get me wrong, I am amazing in bed – but I don’t have an unlimited capacity for emotional love. I’m already showering my wife and son in my benevolence, so what if, come kid #2, the well runs dry? What if he’s a major hump and I just can’t summon the same feelings the second time around? Besides, maybe focusing on loving and caring for and providing a single child with everything he needs is the best way to ensure he gets our best, and in turn, turns out his best?
Finally, is it selfish to deprive my son of a sibling just because it will be a pain in the ass for me? Maybe, but there’s a flip-side to that coin: is it silly to have a second kid for no reason other than to ensure the first one doesn’t grow up to be spoiled, or – worse – an asshole like Marty McFly’s kids?
Obviously, just five months in on kid #1, no decisions have been made. And, so fresh off the physical trauma of pregnancy and the emotional trauma of one’s life being completely annihilated, it’s probably too soon to make any firm plans. But back when things were hypothetical, having just one kid seemed impossible.
It doesn’t seem that way anymore.
I will say this much: there ain’t no way I’m getting a vasectomy.
You and your posts are incredibly annoying and you shouldn’t be allowed to have more children.
Thanks Danielle!
Completely agree. The statement, “is it selfish to deprive my son of a sibling just because it will be a pain in the ass for me?” is a beautiful summary of how I feel and I wish I had the sac to say to my wife!
My husband and I weren’t sure we even wanted to have ANY children but after 4 years of marriage, two dogs and one asshole cat we got the baby fever. Our son is 12 weeks old today and within an hour of his birth, we knew one was enough for us! Not because it was an extremely dangerous labor or we didn’t instantly adore him but because we understood how much time and energy this baby was going to take and we did not feel that stretching that time and attention thin would benefit him, us or society!
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Having only one child can be both a blessing and a challenge. I remember when my partner and I were grappling with whether to have a second child. The thought of doubling our responsibilities left us feeling overwhelmed. It’s true that parenting one child presents its own set of challenges, but we also discovered that every moment spent with him is irreplaceable. Balancing our time and energy can be tough, but it’s filled with joyful surprises. If you’re interested in a light-hearted take on parenting and family life, I recommend checking out Sprunki for some entertaining stories.
Interesting perspective! The unpredictability is definitely a factor. Like navigating a tricky island in Poptropica, you’re constantly adapting! Maybe the joy/frustration ratio shifts, but experience helps. Loving another child can be different, not less. Focus on building a unique bond. Communication is key!
I think if parents educate their children properly, being an only child does not mean being selfish. nytimes crossword
According to the article you shared, parenting a child till they reach adulthood is really vital. Baseball Bros IO is a wild sports game.
The notion of dividing affection is a genuine concern. Seriously, one kid is already a whirlwind! I once felt similarly when juggling work, a demanding hobby, and caring for a sick pet – the limited time and emotional energy felt stretched thin. slope unblocked, that period taught me about prioritizing and setting realistic expectations. It all worked out eventually, with some schedule tweaks! Is it selfish?
Interesting perspective! The “countdown” feeling with subsequent kids is relatable. It’s a valid question if parental resources, both emotional and financial, stretch too thin. Perhaps focusing on providing the best possible upbringing for one child isn’t selfish, but rather a mindful choice. Have you tried the Block Blast game to relax and unwind? It helps clear the head!
Completely agree.
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