Worse Than Breastfeeding

Earlier this week, I poked fun at the recent trend of celebrities bravely “normalizing” breastfeeding by doing it in public. The idea is that movie stars and models and whatever the hell Kardashians are can help remove the stigma around public breastfeeding.

Despite the fact that breastfeeding is as normal as it gets, this movement to remove the shame many women feel in regards to feeding their children is actually necessary. There are whole bunches of people who can’t stomach the sight of a woman breastfeeding in public!

On my Facebook page, I wondered – rhetorically – just who these garbage people are, going around making women feel shame over feeding their kids? Because I guarantee you, most of them have behaved far worse. We all have.

parenting, disease, health, newborns, hungry, tired, diapers, dad and buried, funny, humor, dad bloggers, mommy bloggers, motherhood, fatherhood, winter, stress, kids, family, entertainment, boredom, fun, outside, lifestyle, women, wife, activities, mike julianelle, dads, MS, multiple sclerosis, moms, childrenFirst of all, context matters. Whether you’re a Bible Belt prude who thinks it’s indecent or a misogynistic man-child who only likes to see grown men sucking on boobs, take a step back and think about what’s actually happening. Even if you somehow think it’s gross on a visceral level (which: GROW UP), the act itself – a parent nourishing their child in the most basic, biological way – is anything but. It’s pretty much a miracle that it’s even possible.

Second of all, each and every one of us witnesses acts far more objectionable than breastfeeding on a daily basis (as if breastfeeding were objectionable at all). And none of those have the benefit of keeping babies alive.

Common Public Activities That Are Worse Than Breastfeeding

  • Nose-picking: Not only is it gross to see, the person caught doing it is ashamed to be caught in the act; as they should be! Whereas even if you think breastfeeding is gross (which: GROW UP), there is certainly no shame in it, but digging into your nose in public is childish behavior that should stop in the third grade.
    BENEFIT: Convenience and comfort, I guess? Saving money on tissues? I suppose you could eat it, but holy shit please don’t!
  • Crotch-adjusting/scratching – Keep it on the baseball field, guys. You know, where there are cameras everywhere and we can all leer.
    BENEFIT: Comfort and… comfort ifyouknowwhatI’msaying.
  • Fingernail Clipping – It boggles my mind that people do this in public. It’s nasty. Just the sound of it is disturbing. And babies can’t even eat fingernails. They’ll probably try, because babies are IDIOTS, but there’s just no protein!
    BENEFIT: I can’t even think of an upside to doing this in full view of other people. Letting them know you’re not a vampire?
  • Spitting – Look, there aren’t many bodily fluids I want to see you expel in public, and even though spit is probably one of the least offensive (please don’t make me list the rest), watching your saliva hit the ground is much worse than seeing a woman feed her child.
    BENEFIT: Comfort from phlegm? And it’s a handy way to communicate contempt when you can’t think of a clever comeback.
  • Smoking – It smells. It kills you. It’s carelessly inflicted on other people. It’s actually a lot like children. But nobody likes other people’s children, we certainly don’t want other people’s cancer.
    BENEFIT: Light-headedness. Eventually sounding like Vin Diesel. Looking super-cool. I won’t be sarcastic and say lung cancer. I won’t. (Throat cancer.)
  • Eating Fast Food – This is like the opposite of breastfeeding a child. Instead of keeping someone alive with natural ingredients, you’re killing yourself with toxic ingredients! And it’s all over your face. Seriously. There’s special sauce in your chin-strap, bro. And on your shirt. And your pants. There’s just no elegant way to eat this stuff. We truly shouldn’t be allowed to do it out in the open.
    BENEFIT: Convenience. Multitasking (it’s also a laxative). And you’ve actually motivated me to never go into another McDonald’s again, so, thanks?
  • Urinating – Sure, most of us don’t whip it out or squat in the middle of a restaurant, but we men definitely line up at urinals and/or troughs (been to Fenway Park recently?) to do the deed. You’re telling me seeing someone breastfeed a tiny, helpless human being is more objectionable than rubbing shoulders with someone who’s spraying piss into a bucket?
    BENEFIT: Convenience. Comfort. Writing in the snow.
  • Twerking – Is this craze over yet? Seriously, stop shaking your ass in my face.
    BENEFIT: I don’t have the slightest fucking clue. Exercise?

By way of contrast:

  • Breastfeeding – This partial exposure of one of the most sought-after parts of the human body seems to infuriate and offend countless idiots. It’s neither indecent exposure nor something anyone flaunts. You can’t see much of anything unless you’re looking, either because most women cover with purposely with a blankie or incidentally with the child’s head/body. It’s a means to an end. Oh, and that end?
    BENEFIT: Keeping a helpless human being alive.

Have a little perspective, people. The only thing that needs to be normalized is the behavior of anyone who feels the need to give a nursing mother grief.

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19 thoughts on “Worse Than Breastfeeding

  1. Remember when we were kids and the teacher told us not to bring candy to school unless we had enough for everyone to share?

    Well that ought to be the rule with breastfeeding. Don’t whip that puppy out unless you are ready to share with the whole class. 😉

    1. Then you grew up and learned that you aren’t entitled to a share of everything that someone else has?
      This is a slippery slope, mi amigo. Like, how much skin would a woman have to show before it’s ok to make her share her body? (Rape culture.)
      Also, as a breastfeeding mother, your comment gave me the heebie jeebies.

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  5. This is gold, true and comfortîg that there are people who see breastfeeding as it is and not make something of it it isn t. I m happy to have been able to have fed both my children for a long ass time. Yep i was that “cow” 🙂

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  13. Wow! I like this one! I too always wondered just who was making this taboo in the first place?

    It’s really a beautiful thing. It’s also something that uniquely connects a child and their mom. Dad’s can’t do that, so we have to find other ways to be needed in out children’s lives. That’s what it means to be DADLY!!!

    Check out my blog, The Art of Dadliness (theartofdadliness.com). Love your blog, it’s pinned to my homepage!!

    Keep up the good work!


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